The drama continues! Oh, it wasn’t nearly as bad today but he was righteously indignant that my lawyer “sent him a letter”. I got a very nice thank you text from him, thanking me for exactly that. I didn’t reply. He didn’t ask a question. There was nothing to corroborate. So I ignored him and quickly looked through my email to see if I had missed something.
Sure enough I had! I must not have checked email at all yesterday and it went into junk mail anyway. Why? I have no freakin’ clue! This is the third person from her office to contact me and all three have gone into my junk folder. Anyway, I may not hear from my lawyer all that often but I have to give her mad props. She is like a tenacious bulldog. She asked for documentation for his bonus check so that I know I’m getting half. Score! She revisited the topic of me already paying money towards the pool and being credited for it. As she put it: I realize your client doesn’t agree. I’m willing to table that discussion until the final settlement. If he doesn’t agree to that let me know so I can go ahead and schedule a date to get in front of the judge. I love her! And then she also let his lawyer know that he’s not paying in a timely manner and asked if it would be possible for him to get direct deposit. Ha!
I have a question though. Didn’t he work himself up into a fine snit the other day because I dared to contact him and let him know the check was late? And now he’s in a tizzy because I handed it over to a lawyer. What does he want? He’s pissed if I contact him; he’s pissed if I let my lawyer handle it. As my mom so succinctly puts it, “He wants you to shut up and let him pay you whenever he wants. It’s all about control.” Bitch, I’m the captain now! Only I’m not the bad kind. I’m like Tom Hanks retaking his ship!
I got another strange text from him later on in the day. He let me know that I have full coverage and all my benefits have been verified. Then he told me I was welcome! Funny, I don’t recall saying thank you. I thought that’s what set him off the other day! Then I realized that perhaps I had left off something when I thanked him. I do not believe I remembered to thank him for continuing to cover me and the kids. To be fair it was not court ordered. But to be honest we’re still married and if he doesn’t cover me and something happens to me medically he’s screwed! I was told if something like that did happen he would undoubtedly be ordered to cover my medical expenses; therefore, no lawyer is going to encourage or condone the main breadwinner to drop the spouse and kids from their insurance. It does not look good in court. So, consider this my mea culpa. I’m so sorry I forgot to thank you for the insurance you have provided. You weren’t court ordered to do so and yet you knew you had to. Why, you just go above and beyond in everything you do! You’re a peach! Again, I ignored the text.
Here’s what makes this strange: I already knew I had insurance coverage. I had even let him know I had received the cards. The problem, my friends, is that I still haven’t received my share of the bonus check and that’s the part he blithely skipped over. There was NOTHING in that email about insurance. Is this some sort of weird magician slight of hand bullshit he’s hoping to pull off? I’ll talk about insurance and throw her off the scent of the bonus check money! Yeah, that’s not going to happen.
Also, to clarify, once again he’s lying. My lawyer did not send him a letter like he claimed. She sent an email to his lawyer, who I’m sure forwarded it onto him. She might have contacted him herself! He’s acting like I reigned down Hell upon him when it was a simple, professional email between two lawyers. There were no threats of contempt charges, no promises to see him rot in jail. Just a friendly heads up that CF is not doing as he agreed to do.
What are you going to do? I’m destined to divorce a person who must constantly see himself as a victim. He sees himself as a person who is performing these wonderful acts of service, who goes above and beyond what is required, when the reality is he isn’t doing anything that isn’t required of him by a court of law. He thinks he’s doing me all sorts of favors; I think he’s loosely following a court order.