How much is this fucking divorce going to end up costing me? For crying out loud, it’s not like we have millions in assets to divide up! It’s not like we even have hundreds of thousands of dollars to divide up. And yet I am already $6000 into it and my lawyer needs another $3000 before Christmas. Hooray!
Do you have any idea what six thousand dollars has bought me so far? It paid for divorce papers to be filed on the grounds of adultery, with the shit eating chimp “demurring” on those charges”. I later found out my attorney didn’t write it up correctly so at any point CF could deny those charges and then he wouldn’t be ordered to pay me a cent until a year had passed (which is no longer a worry seeing as how it’s been a year). It got me a downsized temporary settlement offer that was followed for a whopping five months. That was also written incorrectly so now I pay taxes on the entire alimony amount as opposed to part of it being written in as marital debt. I think we can safely say that the first $3000 was completely wasted. The next $3000 has bought me…. nothing really. It’s not to say that my lawyer isn’t working for her money. It’s just that I’m a freaking year into this shit and I’m no closer to a divorce than I was over a year ago. My money has been spent on crap like reminding him to pay off the pool, to pay my half of the bonus check, to ask him to get my damn support check to me on time, to argue about the $5000 I already paid to the pool contractor. It’s also been spent trying to figure out what the hell is going on with him after he abruptly quit his second job. It’s been spent drafting interrogatories, going to court for a show-cause hearing, and filing motions to prevent him from draining his 401k (if he hasn’t already done so). Oh, and emails. I’ve undoubtedly spent a shit ton of money on emails! It’s all bullshit and I still don’t have a settlement or a finalized divorce.
The sad part is since we have to go to court in February I’m sure a huge chunk of that $3000 is going to be spent on that. I can’t keep coming up with $3000 retainers. He has ruined my credit so I don’t have any credit cards to put it on. Because he hasn’t paid child or spousal support in 6 months I have drained any and all savings I had. Unlike him, I didn’t get to blow my share of the bonus check on spring break in Daytona with my fake family. I got to use mine to pay utilities and feed my kids.
My attorney is going to ask for my legal fees to be paid for by him. With his recent employment woes I’m not sure how that’s going to play out. I figure I’m going to end up getting screwed out of everything so I’m not banking on getting that money back.
Argh! This is so frustrating! Anybody want to start a pool on how much this divorce is ultimately going to cost me? I’m shaking my damn head. No one should be paying around $10,000 for a divorce when there is NOTHING left to fight over.