I’m still waiting on a verdict, and I’m still pretty superstitious about saying too much before I hear what is happening so I’m going to leave you with CF’s marvelous texts to me in the aftermath of discovering he was a liar and a cheater, and my replies to those texts. Enjoy!
Today is shaping up to not be a good day. I think it’s finally hitting me and I’m crying. I spent most of yesterday researching spousal support and tax laws and trying to figure out how much to put aside in taxes each month. That was sure fun! If he agrees that it won’t be tax deductible for him I may not have to claim it but I don’t expect him to do me any favors. He’s been such a standup guy so far, right? Cousinfucker! I hate his fucking guts. I told a friend yesterday after she joked about him dying and doing us all a favor that I prayed for that to happen. Every fucking weekend he goes down there I hope with all my might that he’ll drive his car off a fucking mountain and die. I go to sleep thinking about it and how I would handle everything afterwards.
First, I would call the phone company and cancel the whore’s cell phone, along with her daughter’s. Then I would have my lawyer draft a letter to her, demanding the return of the cell phones within 10 days or I’d be suing her. I’d cremate him and then just throw his ashes away in the dump. I had originally thought I’d toss them on his mom’s doorstep but I decided that was too good for her. No funeral. No memorial service. No obituary unless I was able to add in there: He is survived by his wife and 2 kids, his mistress Harley Skank-Tramp and her 4 kids…… And I’m not sure the paper would let me do that. No headstone. No marker. No nothing. If his family wants to pay for one they are free to do so. But I’m not spending a dime on the asshole. They should be thankful I claim the body at all! And then I’d look into seeing if I could sue Harley for the money Zack gave her since he’s dead. Oh, oh, oh- I just added a detail. Instead of informing Tammy Faye and everyone else I would contact Harley. Hello, whore. I’m texting you to let you know Zack is dead. Automobile accident. You can inform his family because I won’t be. Or maybe I just wouldn’t contact them at all. She could find out when her phone was shut off and when he wasn’t answering her texts. I’m sure she’d call his mother and have her try to contact him. And then when she couldn’t get ahold of him she’d have to break down and call me to see if I knew where he was. Yep, the police contacted me a couple days ago. He’s dead. I had him cremated. Good bye.
Thankfully the crying has passed now. I’m just so overwhelmed sometimes. I know we have to sell the house. I could make ends meet- probably- on what he’ll more than likely be ordered to pay, but money would be tight and there would be no savings. The mortgage is almost $2100/month. During the summer our electric bill is over $350. Those 2 payments alone take up almost half of my spousal support. Then I start looking for a place to rent. I need a place that will allow pets and it needs to be in my kids’ school zone. A fenced in backyard would be a plus. I’ve been looking and it seems like there is nothing that fits that description. And then I’m looking at $1600/month for a house that’s less than 2000 sq. ft. I know we have a big house, probably bigger than we need. But I like our big bedrooms. I know Rock Star likes not having to share a bathroom with Picasso. That’s all going to be over. I can’t find anything with 3 bathrooms that I’ll be able to afford. I will probably have to go back to work but I’m not going to be making shit and on top of that if Zack knows I’m working he can always take me back to court and try to get spousal support changed. I’ll probably be working a shit job just to keep our heads afloat. And meanwhile he’s off having the time of his life. I swear to God, my goal is to ruin him. I want him to commit suicide if his fucking car doesn’t crash. I know I’m evil but I just don’t care. I want him to hurt like I’ve been hurting, like my kids have been hurting.
I was at a point where I could safely browse Facebook. I don’t look at his page. Or hers. It just hurts too much. She’s fawning all over him and nobody chimes in, “This is all kinds of fucked up!” But I do look on my own news feed. Today, seeing all the happy anniversary wishes just made me so sad. They already made me sad before because I felt like I just couldn’t participate on our own anniversary, but now seeing all these people celebrating 20+ years made me incredibly sad and I could feel the tears starting.
Anyway, I promised to write about the text I did send when he asked me if I was ok since he didn’t see my car when he left for work at 6 am. You know, so he could leave early to fuck his bitch. He said:
Are you ok? I went to work at 6 and your car was gone. Just want to make sure you are alright.
Am I ok? Let’s see. My husband moved me and my kids across the country, uprooting our lives because this move was supposed to make him so happy. A year to the day that our furniture was delivered to our new house my husband was having sex with his cousin/mistress; in fact, he blew off a family vacation with his wife and kids to be with her. I’ve been cheated on and lied to. My kids are scared and upset. You aren’t even putting enough in our joint account to cover the bills, much less pay for groceries. Meanwhile you accuse me, your actual legal wife, of stealing from you while you slink off every weekend to be with your mistress and her kids, spend hundreds each weekend, buy Harley and her daughter new iPhone 6s, and pay their cell phone bill. So no, I’m not ok. I’ve lost 25 pounds in less than a month, my blood pressure is sky high, and I’m left cleaning up your mess while you go off and play without a care in the world. The time to care about whether or not I’m ok was before you went off and started having yet another affair with Harley. It’s a little too late to act concerned about me now. Oh, and btw, my car was in the garage.
That took place the Friday of Labor Day weekend where he left to spend 3 glorious days with the cunt and her bratty kids. He never responded. Gee, I wonder why not.
Then we have my favorite- the text where he wants us to work together to make this less stressful on everyone. I’m pissing myself I’m laughing so hard. Here it is in its glorious entirety:
Sam, let’s try to figure out a way to make this less stressful for all involved. I am saddened that you felt compelled to toss out all of my memories and my clothing. There are so few of them in this house. In spite of all that has happened we have a history and that cannot be erased no matter how badly you want it to go away. So you have a choice. You can be bitter and hateful toward me, or respect the fact that I am setting you free of the burden of being my wife. I know you will take a hit financially but you will be well provided for, we both know that. My attorney has you covered for the rest of your life.
So stop all of this foolishness. Let our children know I love them and let’s act like adults and come to a healthy relationship apart from all of this. I respect you as a mother and you have followed me around the country and I am grateful to you for that. Let’s build a future relationship that we can both be happy for each other and our children and show them that happiness and being whole are vital to a person’s future. I read everything you wrote on your fake Facebook page. I know you have been very unhappy. It’s evident in what you wrote and your depression has heightened in the past two years. I know you will be whole without me, we aren’t good together. So all that said I want you and I to work on this. To be grown up about it for the sake of our children.
And finally, here’s what I really want to say; my responses are in bold: Sam, let’s try to figure out a way to make this less stressful for all involved. Oh, I’m sorry. Are you stressed? Whatever would you be stressed out over? You are fucking your whore every weekend, thinking the two of you are going to be living on easy street while I’m saddled with all the bills and left explaining everything to your kids because you’re such a pathetic coward you can’t do anything that might be difficult. You want this to be less stressful? Maybe you should have thought about that before you started fucking your whore of a cousin! I am saddened that you felt compelled to toss out all of my memories and my clothing. There are so few of them in this house. I didn’t throw anything out, you whiney little asshole! In spite of all that has happened we have a history and that cannot be erased no matter how badly you want it to go away. Are you seriously getting your panties in a twist over the fact I took our wedding pictures down? Or do you think the fact that I’ve wasted the last 21 years of my life on such a pathetic loser is supposed to mean something to me? Because it doesn’t. You are nothing to me. So you have a choice. You can be bitter and hateful toward me, or respect the fact that I am setting you free of the burden of being my wife. Wow- what a fucking hero! Are you fucking serious? You actually think that fucking another woman one year to the day after you’ve moved me and my kids 2000 miles across the country, tearing them away from everything they know and love, is some sort of noble act? You really have lost your goddamn mind! I know you will take a hit financially but you will be well provided for, we both know that. My attorney has you covered for the rest of your life. So which one is it? Am I well provided for, or am I taking a hit? Are your children going to live in poverty because Daddy is too busy showing off for his skank ass cousin and her fucking kids, or are you going to step up and actually be a father to them and provide for them? Actually, don’t answer that because I’ve talked to two lawyers and both of them have come up with a far higher number than that piddly ass one you threw out at me. Don’t you worry your little bald head about me paying you back. You are going to pay and pay and pay. Believe me when I tell you that MY kids will NEVER take a backseat to her or her kids, financially. When I’m done taking my share you are going to be left with nothing. Hey, do you think Harley will be as madly in love with you when you’ve got about $200/month to your name and she needs to work double shifts to help pay my spousal support? Do you think her kids will think you are as wonderful when you can’t fulfill the promises you’ve made to them? I mean, she’s already sending naked pictures to other men and her kids already talk shit about you behind your back; if you can’t buy them off how do you think they’ll treat you then?
So stop all of this foolishness. What foolishness? I think you’ve fared very well. I haven’t outed you to everyone on Facebook. I haven’t yelled and screamed or threatened. I haven’t thrown all your shit out or burned it. And believe me, those are all suggestions I’ve had from well meaning friends. I just have no desire to see your ugly face, much less have a conversation with you. I find you revolting. Let our children know I love them and let’s act like adults and come to a healthy relationship apart from all of this. 1. Why don’t you tell your children you love them yourself? Are you too much of a coward to face them? Would seeing the hurt and devastation on their faces be too unpleasant for you? Tough shit! How do you think I felt when I was left all alone to tell our kids that you were leaving us for another woman? How do you think I felt when I had to tell them you were fucking your cousin, that everyone in your sick, pathetic family knew and were ok with it, and that we were getting a divorce? How do you think I feel every time they ask me if we’re going to have to move, or why on earth did you let us get a pool if you were fucking around with the whore, and will they be able to continue going to their same schools? I don’t know who the fuck lied to you and told you fucking another woman and leaving your wife and kids for her would be easy. 2. I am acting like an adult. Unfortunately for you that does not include having to have any kind of a relationship with my cheating, lying asshole of an ex-husband! I know that would be easier on you because you have a long history of not wanting to have to do anything difficult but it’s no longer my job to baby you or make things easy. I have absolutely no desire to be friends with you. No desire to have any type of a relationship with you. Our kids are old enough that you can communicate with them. I don’t need to tell you shit. I don’t care to surround myself with liars and cheaters and that’s all you are. You are a pathetic loser and I want nothing to do with you. I respect you as a mother and you have followed me around the country and I am grateful to you for that. Fuck off! I am the only parent these kids have known. You were always too busy holing up in your room and fucking around with Harley to be much of a father to them. And you can stick your “gratefulness” up your ass, Cousinfucker! Let’s build a future relationship that we can both be happy for each other and our children and show them that happiness and being whole are vital to a person’s future. What utter bullshit! I will not lie to my kids like that. I am NOT happy for you. You cheated on me and left me for another woman. You are seriously delusional if you think I will ever be happy about that. As far as you being happy for me? Well, gee, isn’t that big of you? Last time I checked I didn’t have a boyfriend waiting in the wings for me. I’m not the one walking away from everything leaving you with all the responsibilities. I’m not the one running off every weekend to be with someone else. I’m not the one who has hurt our children. I read everything you wrote on your fake Facebook page. I know you have been very unhappy. It’s evident in what you wrote and your depression has heightened in the past two years. Oh please! I am not depressed and my “depression” has not heightened. I’ve been dealing with a whiney, douchebag of a husband who takes off and fucks his cousin the first chance he gets. I’ve been dealing with your first affair with Harley, moving across the country knowing we were moving here because of her, dealing with the fact that I’m not allowed to ever be sad or triggered by anything in regards to said affair, adjusting to life in Whoreville, and then with your fucking downward spiral and all your friends and relatives who couldn’t be bothered the last 20 fucking years to be there for you encouraging you to leave me, and finally with your drinking and all your “anxiety” and “PTSD”. You have absolutely drained me! Maybe instead of getting your little fee fees hurt because everything wasn’t going your way you could have put on your big boy pants and actually talked to me! I know you will be whole without me, we aren’t good together. No shit. It’s a little difficult to be good together when you’re fucking your cousin. So all that said I want you and I to work on this. To be grown up about it for the sake of our children. You don’t need to worry about “our” children. They hate you and want nothing to do with you. And you don’t need to worry about us working on this. Your lawyer can talk to my lawyer. Live it up, Loverboy because once we get before a judge your world is going to be rocked.