Welcome to Part 2 of the never-ending letter to CF in response to his vomit worthy text.
Sam, let’s try to figure out a way to make this less stressful for all involved. I am saddened that you felt compelled to toss out all of my memories and my clothing. There are so few of them in this house. In spite of all that has happened we have a history and that cannot be erased no matter how badly you want it to go away. So you have a choice. You can be bitter and hateful toward me, or respect the fact that I am setting you free of the burden of being my wife. I know you will take a hit financially but you will be well provided for, we both know that. My attorney has you covered for the rest of your life.
So stop all of this foolishness. Let our children know I love them and let’s act like adults and come to a healthy relationship apart from all of this. I respect you as a mother and you have followed me around the country and I am grateful to you for that. Let’s build a future relationship that we can both be happy for each other and our children and show them that happiness and being whole are vital to a person’s future. I read everything you wrote on your fake Facebook page. I know you have been very unhappy. It’s evident in what you wrote and your depression has heightened in the past two years. I know you will be whole without me, we aren’t good together. So all that said I want you and I to work on this. To be grown up about it for the sake of our children.
You want to talk about my Facebook page? Let’s talk about it! I used that page as my own personal blog. There were no friends on it and I used a fake name. You didn’t want to talk about what you had done. It “stressed” you. You couldn’t handle it. So I went off and I dealt with it on my own.
You say you read everything but you obviously didn’t or you simply ignored anything positive. Maybe 10% of what was on there was about us and not even all of that was negative. You ignored the bone analogy where I talked about how a broken bone is actually stronger once it has healed and how I could get behind that. You missed the long post where I talked about how your affair would be nothing more than a bump in the road on our 50th wedding anniversary.
There were casual updates. Many times I said we were doing great and things were fantastic. There was the song that I said reminded me of us now. There was the picture of the hearts you drew on my van. All good things. Hell, I even read one where I said: This is where I go to vent so I feel bad only talking about the negative. Things are actually great.
The vast majority of it was keeping an eye on your paramour, which it turns out I was right for doing because first chance you got you started up with her again!
The other large part of it was processing the feelings of betrayal I felt when no one in your family would cut ties with her despite her being the other woman since she was family and all.
You think that entitles you to have another affair with the same woman? Unbelievable!
Hey, here’s an idea. Instead of turning to people who you were always whining to me about maybe you should have talked to me! Maybe you could have read that and thought to yourself, “Hey, maybe I should step it up and let my wife know how sorry I am, how much I love her, and then give her all the time she needs to completely heal from the betrayal I threw at her.” Or even taken some of the things I said and actually done them, like defending me, or not throwing me under the bus!
But no! Your solution was to go crying to anyone who would listen, “Oh, Sam is soooooo mean! I had an affair with my cousin and she hasn’t forgotten about it!” And everyone around you said, “Oh, poor Cousinfucker! She’s horrible! You should leave her! Your happiness is the only thing that’s important. Don’t worry about her, the woman who has stood by your side for the last 20 years. Don’t worry about your kids. As long as you’re happy they’ll be ok. Just focus on your own happiness because you are the only person who matters!” Then again you’re so busy playing the victim that the idea you may have contributed to this is completely foreign.
I was asked to forgive your affair, uproot my life and my kids’ lives, move 2000 miles across the country, move closer to your mistress, and start all over in a town I knew we were only going to because of your affair with her all in the span of a year. Instead of telling you something you didn’t want to hear because it caused so much “anxiety” for you I handled it on my own. And for that I’m vilified and you use it to justify having yet another affair with her. You demanded that I forgive and forget because you didn’t want to face what you had done; you didn’t want to be reminded of it. You didn’t want to have to do anything that was difficult. It’s unfortunate that you couldn’t handle the fact that I would *occasionally* be triggered by something. It’s too bad you couldn’t accept the fact that having everyone in your family fawning over your mistress was distressful for me. Turns out I was right for being distressed seeing as how it was your mother who encouraged her to call you again.
And you know what the funniest part of all this is? I was completely over it finally! Probably around April or May. I didn’t want to be reminded of it or her. Isn’t that funny? Just as I feel completely healed from your first betrayal you start messing around with her again. Although, according to her, I was never your first choice and you only stayed because you “couldn’t liquidate your assets quickly enough.”
I’m curious. Was that a lie you told her or is that the lie she tells everyone to justify hopping into bed with you after you dumped her? We both know it only takes about 24 hours to “liquidate” any assets you might have had. And you might want to let the little whore know it doesn’t matter how “quickly you liquidate your assets” you still have to hand over 50%. But I get it; the other story sounds better.
Stay tuned! There’s more to come!