Spaghetti Sam Turns Three

As you can probably tell by the title I’ve been doing this blogging thing for three years now! In the beginning I posted almost every day; I’ve slowed down quite a bit recently. This will be my 716th post. If I’d kept up my original pace I think I’d have closer to 1000 posts.

I’d like to think that a lot has changed in those three years but I’m not sure it has. When I started this blog I was about 5 months in, having found out my husband was cheating again back in August. I still lived in the family home. We all lived in Virginia. My kids were attending their original high school and middle school. He was paying support. I had money in the bank.

Shortly after I started the blog he made the decision to quit his job of 15 years and move to another state. That was not a good time. I had no idea what was going to happen. Would we have to move back to Indiana and in with my mom? Would my kids have to leave their schools and their friends yet again? Well…. not quite yet.

Life leveled out again for another four months or so and then the bottom dropped out of our world. We packed up, moved in with my mom, started all over again. I found a job. Then I found a second job. Then I found a full time job and kept one of my part time jobs. I cried every day. I begged to be put out of my misery. It was a very long, bleak ten months where I worked my ass off for very little money and exhausted myself.

I finally got my back support which eased the financial burden somewhat. Life became a little less bleak. A wonderful thing happened and I met the mobster. I fell madly in love. In between those two events my beloved Beau died. I was still in limbo with the ex and still having to fight for spousal and child support.

In November I went to court and kicked some ass. In December he began paying support again and I was granted my divorce.

In March of the following year I was promoted. My daughter graduated high school in June. She began college in August and is happy once again. My son got his learner’s permit in October but hasn’t spent a minute behind the wheel of a car.

That brings us to today- January 8, 2019. A lot has happened. Some very bad. Some very good. I’m still not self sufficient. I still don’t have a house of my own. I still don’t make very much money. I’m still fighting with the ex over support. I still don’t know what I want to do with my life. I’m still here, writing.

I’m also made new friends. I’ve reconnected with old friends. I was lucky enough to get out to Utah twice. My kids have really grown emotionally over the last three years and both seem to be at a good place in their lives. Probably the biggest difference between that January day in 2016 and now? The mobster found me. I finally have an amazing relationship- one based on reciprocity, mutual respect, love, and a real partnership.

I never thought I would be part of a couple again. I wasn’t looking for love. I don’t think I really even wanted it or thought it was possible. I figured I was going to spend the rest of my life alone; I was fine with that. Then he came along and changed everything. I would have got there eventually but he made the transition move along so much more quickly and seamlessly.

I’m looking forward to seeing what this next year brings. Happy Birthday to me and my little ol’ blog. I don’t have a ton of followers but I love my regulars. According to my stats I’ve had a total of 26,892 visitors and 117,611 views. Not exactly staggering numbers when compared to Chump Lady’s four million plus views, but considering I wasn’t sure whether anyone beyond my immediate circle of friends would ever read this, much less follow me, I can’t complain.

Thank you to everyone who comes here and reads what I write. I appreciate you more than you will know. I hope to continue to be entertaining you for a long, long time!

8 thoughts on “Spaghetti Sam Turns Three

  1. Happy birthday.
    Your blog has made me feel a bit less alone 6 weeks after finding out my husband was having an affair.
    I’m still in the throes of some of the sharpest, most breath stealing pain I have ever felt…but I also know my kids and I will be ok. Like you and your kids.

    Thank you,

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  2. Sam, I it makes me happy to hear about how happy you and the mobster are. I don’t know that I’ll ever be ready again to find what you have but its nice to know that it is out there.

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